At this time of year, everywhere around there are full of holiday images of family gatherings, brightly lit trees, lavish gifts and tables laden with rich foods, beverages and desserts.
For those whose depression and anxiety is triggered by the holiday season and those who have lost a loved one, a treasured pet, or even a job and are grieving, the holidays can be tough to navigate.
“One of the things we do say is to know your own limitations,” said Karen Monts, practice manager of Counseling Services at Hospice of Michigan. “Don’t feel pressured to do things a certain way or allow images on television to get into your mind so that you feel like everyone is having a wonderful holiday except you, because we know that is not the case.”
For someone experiencing the first holiday without a family member, friend or pet, even something like watching a Hallmark Channel Christmas movie can be a trigger. Monts says trying to plan ahead for the holiday can help to alleviate stress and depression.
“You know this is going to be a different holiday without that loved one, so try and figure out what works for you,” Monts said. “Maybe you do not go to the family gathering this year or maybe you do, but spend less time there.
“Maybe you take a walk in the woods on Christmas because you feel good when you’re out in nature.”
Monts encourages everyone not to forget about self care during the holidays — things like getting enough sleep, eating healthy foods, and setting aside time for yourself to do something just for you. She also advises those with loved ones who are experiencing depression or anxiety to respect the boundaries they may set at this time of year.
“You may have to redefine what the holiday looks like and ask yourself what the season is about for you personally,” Monts said. “It is okay to turn compassion inward and be self focused.
“We are good at doing that for others, but not good at turning that inward and figuring out…
Read the full article here
